Wednesday, November 19, 2014


Today I am broken. I am grieving. I am hurting deeply. There are no winners here. The case is in the hands of the jury and no matter what happens there are no winners. The only potential winners are those who are potentially being saved from a very abusive man.

I sat in the court room and listened to people who should have loved and protected me lie on the stand. I'm not angry. I'm sad. So very sad. I fear that I will never again be able to have a relationship with the mother I still love. Yes, she has repeatedly chosen an incredibly abusive man over me, and as a mom there is NO part of me that understands or justifies that in any way, but she is still my mom, and I will always love her.

When someone chooses to abuse another person they don't just hurt that person. Daniel, in abusing my brother and myself, not only hurt us, but many others too. He took away my mother from me. He took away a grandmother from my children. He caused great rifts within the family. It is heartbreaking.

Your choices will have so much greater impact than you even know. Please love your children. Protect them!!! And God forbid something happen and someone hurts someone you love, PLEASE help bring the abuser to justice as fast as possible.


  1. Tina, you speak volumes. How deep that wound must be, having to listen to those who, as you said, should have protected and loved you, but they did not. They still do not. Their actions are vile, and I am sorry.

  2. Sending love and hugs to you and your family. I can't pretend to know the depth of your grief, so I don't have eloquent words to offer. Praying for earthly justice, knowing God will repay and vindicate you in end.

    Much love to you!